I am a proud member of the Gamma Phi Beta Sorority. I was initiated at Nu Chapter at the University of Oregon my freshman year and I am the current Chapter Advisor for Epsilon Omicron Chapter at the University of California Santa Cruz.
|Aren't I a cute little sophomore?|
|Nu Chapter's class of 2010, I would not have graduated if it wasn't for these ladies.|
|Flipping pancakes for our annual philanthropy, Pancake Breakfast.|
We raise money for our national philanthropy Campfire USA. I loved being Philanthropy Chair.
|Despite being filmed on my campus, this was SO NOT my experience. |
Though I love this movies and it's funny say
partied in Omega House during college.
So, this begs the questions: Will I let my children join a fraternity or sorority? The answer is yes and no....let me explain...
First of all, the sad truth that not everyone is meant to be Greek. Some people will never like the structure and ritual---and there is nothing wrong with that. And they wouldn't be secret societies if everyone was in them! My husband is amazing man, but he is so not a fraternity man. He is what we call an independent. If my son (or maybe my daughter one day) takes after his dad with that independent spirit, I would never pressure him into joining.
Second, there is the issue of non-conformity in the some Greek Systems. While some states/universities do an amazing job of ensuring the safety of all students, other do not. The State of Oregon has very strict hazing laws (zero tolerance actually) and Gamma Phi Beta has very strict housing/membership requirements (in addition to a zero tolerance hazing rule). So pretty much it is impossible for any Chapter to last in the State of Oregon if they try to be Animal House (and I did see two bad chapters get shut down during my collegiate time--and trust me they deserved it). A lot of other states have just as high of standard for nationally recognized Greek houses (see California's here). So if my child went to school in a state with these regulations, I would most likely approve.
|Nothing like this ever happened to me, and should never happen to anybody.|
|My wonderful Epsilon Omicron Chapter collegiates at Fall 2013 recruitment.|
I took this picture because I was so proud of them. No Delta House here.
And lastly, there is the issue of why they want to join. I have been through several recruitment processes now---as potential member hoping to be selected by a chapter, a initiated member trying to select new sisters, and as an Advisor overseeing the process. I have heard practically every reason for wanting to join a sorority there is. Everything from "I want friends for life!" to "I want to kiss a lot of frat boys." I personally went through recruitment because I felt lost in life and hoped to find some guidance. If my child wanted to join for a similar positive reason, I would absolutely support it. But if I hear the words party, beer, sex, drugs, slacking off, or hazing I will bring their butt home instantly and figure out where I went wrong.
|Epsilon Omicron Chapter's Spring Recruitment 2013.|
I'm a sister for life. I would be proud if my son or daughter
wanted to carry on my Greek legacy.